A Thank You to a Woman Saving Haiti, One Child at a Time.

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Three years ago, almost to the day, I visited our friends at Danita’s Children in Ouanaminthe, Haiti. It changed my life.

Click on the photo to read the blog I wrote about them.

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A Doozy of a Blog- Haiti Trip Edition, February 2011

I promise it’s worth your time to read, even if you skip reading the rest of this one.

I just wanted to take a break from my normal foolishness and celebrate them. They are changing and affecting a country like nobody else, in any other country, anywhere.

Since my visit there three years ago, the hospital, on their campus, has been completed. Ouanaminthe, is isolated. It’s on the border of the Dominican Republic, but it’s HOURS from any true civilization. HOURS from medical help, until now.

danitaWhat Danita Estrella Watts has done in that town has changed the course of that country forever. 15 years ago she moved there with really no idea of how to do what she wanted to do. And today, 15 years later, she’s outdone her wildest imaginations.

Her orphanage houses hundreds of kids who were living, or more to the point, dying on the streets before they found her rescue.

She has a school, a church, and now, a children’s hospital.

This town’s children were dying. And most of them were dying because when they got sick, they couldn’t receive proper medical attention. Ouanminthe used to be 3 hours from the nearest hospital. Now, they’re 3 minutes away from a children’s medical center which houses a full time Haitian doctor, nurse and dentist.

There aren’t many people of Ouanaminthe with blogs who can reach out and say thank you to Danita and her team, so I’m doing it for them.

Please take five minutes to read the blog I linked above, and then, another five minutes to watch this tribute video created for Danita’s 15th anniversary.

If you would like more information on how you can help Danita and Danita’s children, please visit, DanitasChildren.org.

Confessions of A Married Man: 5 Tips for a Happy Valentine’s Day. (HINT) If she shared this, you should probably READ it!

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Hey guys, heads up, Valentine’s Day is this week, FYI.

I know it’s a trumped up Hallmark Holiday. I know you think it’s sole purpose even existing is to sell greeting cards, but that’s not completely true. On the other end of that greeting card is your special lady, who doesn’t care why she’s receiving love notes from you, she’s just happy she is. If you want to know if Valentine’s Day is a big deal to her, just skip it one year, see how that works out for ya.

To help you along, I’m including 5 easy tips on how to make sure Valentine’s Day starts well for her, and more importantly, ends well for you. Continue reading

Ignoring my Family, To Bring You the Perfect Christmas Video

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A few weeks ago, Apple rolled out a new commercial advertising their new iPhone. It was a very touching and heartwarming piece, featuring a young teen who seems to be distracted by his iPhone all day, but then it’s revealed he was capturing the whole day on his phone, and quickly editing a moving holiday family video.

Well, that made me want to do the same. So, in turn, I also ignored my family through three different holiday gatherings, but it’s ok, I got it all on video, and put together a 2 minute highlight of the festivities, just like the apple spot. Continue reading

Thanksgiving: A Holiday for the man, made by a woman.

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Thanksgiving. Hands down, my favorite holiday of the year.

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But this is only true, because I’m a man.

My wife would disagree. That is, she would disagree that Thanksgiving is the best, not that I’m a man…I think.

Truth is, Thanksgiving is a completely different holiday to the man than it is to the woman.

I offer you, 3 easy steps to make Thanksgiving better for her.

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“Daddy, have you ever smiled?” The question that changed my parenting.

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I’m a father to two boys, 13 and 9. It was the youngest that asked me the question which changed the way I thought of myself as a parent. He was about 5 years old at the time, and it hit me like a ton of bricks.

“Daddy, have you ever smiled?”

I was taken off guard at first by the question. What could he mean? Of course I smile. Anybody who knows me may wonder if I’ve ever been serious.

The more I thought about it though, the kid was right.  His perception of me as not only a father, but a person, painted a terrible reality.

Don’t misunderstand, on the surface, I’m a good dad. I don’t beat my children; I hug them, kiss them, and tell them I love them. All the things we think are the important parts of being a good parent. Obviously, it wasn’t enough.

I had to take a look at myself from my kid’s perspective. I saw 5 negatives I knew I had to change to positives.

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The Story of How I Caused Oklahoma to Lose to Texas

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My bizarro weekend, i.e., the reason OU lost to Texas.

It started off when Bethany Public Schools made the decision to not have Fall Break land on OU/Texas weekend. This meant we couldn’t leave early, we had to wait for the kids to get out of school.

Then, I made a critical wardrobe mistake. The last two years, I wore an OU Tshirt to dinner on Friday night in Dallas, and an OU Polo to the game.

This year, I’ve got a new dri-fit Tshirt that I wanted to wear during the game, because it was going to be hot and it would be more comfortable. So, I did the polo on Friday, Tshirt on Saturday. Continue reading

Dear 13-Year-Old Me: It’s Gonna Be All Right

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Bonus Advice: You don’t always look as cool as you think you do.

As my own 13 year old enters the 8th grade, I think about how important EVERYTHING seemed at that age, and how trivial that is to me now.

It doesn’t seem like too long ago that I was in his shoes. Although, I think his feet are bigger than mine were at that age. At 13, I thought I knew it all, and I thought I had seen it all. Looking back on it now, of course, that is very much not true.

So I am going to give you this gift. A gift of foresight. I want you to look at this list, and study it, and realize, it’s all going to be OK.
8 things I wish I could tell my 13 year old self.